How To Win At Social Networking

When done right, social networking can be great for gaining traffic and growing your reputation. However most people don’t do it properly. They either don’t attract enough friends, or don’t get enough attention from the friends they have.

Let’s have a look at how you can attract more friends, then how to get their attention. Screen Shot 2013 12 11 at 7.42.59 PM 300x220 How To Win At Social Networking

Attracting Friends

It’s important to attract friends that are interested in your niche. It’s actually quite easy to do this. What I have done in the past is join some social networks and forums related to my niche. It is very easy to get to know people on these types of sites. All you need to do is talk to them and be helpful and polite. Quite soon you can become a respected member of the community where most people will either know you, or at least will are aware of your existence. This is usually enough.

You can then go looking for these members on social networks such as Facebook and Twitter and add them as a friend. You may also wish to send a note telling them where you know them from. In my experience they will almost always accept your friendship since they already know you. Remember, they are usually looking to network too. You can then create a snowball effect.

Once you manage to get a few friends, it becomes much easier to get more. Quickly you will share many mutual friends with people you are friend requesting. This further increases the likelihood that they will accept. If you know 50 people that they know then they can be quite confident that it is worth their while knowing you. It confirms you are not a spammer, and that you are interested in their niche. Remember these people are also looking to connect with relevant people.

It is also a good idea to use the same profile picture everywhere. This gives you a better chance of being recognized. Also include details of what you do in your profiles, as this will increase your chances of getting friends.

You can also add the same people on different networks. Most will at least have a Facebook, Twitter and Google Plus account. Look for them and add them. They are highly likely to add you back if you are already friends on another network.

Getting Attention

With all your new targeted friends, it’s now easy to get traffic right? Wrong! Not if you simply post links to your content you won’t. You need to do more than this.

You need to engage – get into some conversations. Comment on other peoples’ posts. Share them and like them. This provides you with many benefits.

First they notice you and learn who you are. This is a great start. If you regularly share their content, they feel like they owe you something – this is human nature. This massively increases your chances of them sharing your content back.

I have also noticed that when I have shared some of my content, if there is a conversation attached to it then it gets way more clicks and shares. So if anyone comments on your post, always respond. Try and respond in a way that encourages further discussion. This can be done by responding to their comment, then asking a question that requires them to answer. This usually increases the visibility of your post. For instance Facebook now ranks posts higher that had more engagement. Also people want to see what the fuss is all about, and think that it must be great content if there is so much discussion around it. This really does work well.

Final Thoughts

If you put in the effort, then you can get some great results with social media. However it is up to you to make it happen. If you simply post links to your content and sit back, then little is going to happen. Get out there, be social, and give people a good reason to want to know you. People like to interact with other people, not automated messages. Give it the human touch and you will reap the benefits.

About Jon Rhodes

If you want more tried and tested practical tips to help you become a success online, check out Jon's blog by clicking here… AffiliateHelp.Info Jon is an affiliate marketer and hypnotherapist from the UK. He has been making a living online since 2007.

11 thoughts on “How To Win At Social Networking

  1. Anisha

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  2. Kingsley

    Very good article, Jon. I agree with you about how to win at social networking. It’s becoming very important now, more than ever before, to not only learn how to do social networking, but how to do it right and win at it.

    Thankfully one doesn’t have to guess how to do this, thanks to articles like this, from those like you who know what they are talking about. You not only know what you are talking about, but you also practice what you preach. That’s the kind of person I would rather learn from, :)

    One thing to note is that when people think and hear of social networking, all they think about is Twitter, Facebook, etc. They think all there is to social networking is big social sites. That’s not entirely correct.

    There are niche social networking sites that they can network in as well. For example, for Internet marketers, there is, which Jon is a member in, and gets to network with other like-minded Internet marketers, :)

    Anyway, thanks again, Jon, for a good article, and thanks for sharing this yourself on

    • Jon Rhodes

      Thanks for your kind words Kingsley. Yes more specialist sites like Kingged.Com are definitely worth exploring. It has a great community there. Thinking in a holistic type of way, blog commenting, and forums are also social networking. Whenever we are contributing to the internet. That’s why we should put some thought into EVERYTHING we write, no matter where it is, and be prepared to engage in a conversation.
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      • Kingsley

        You are right about blog commenting and engaging in forum marketing being social networking. It doesn’t have to have “social” attached to it before it can be social networking; any activity online that allows us to network with others is also social networking, :)

        Thanks for your response!

  3. Shin

    The success of social marketing somehow depends on the type of niche you are working in. But, triggering the right spot is actually what matters which can lead any niche to heights of success in social media.

  4. Sourav

    Hi Jon Rhodes !

    Social media ! Ah ! Social networking site help us to expose our works for wider circulations. I personally use Facebook, twitter and Blog Engage for wide circulation of my article.
    So , as you said to get audience you’ll need to interact and build relationships :)

    Thanks for sharing these unique tips. Keep writing :)
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